What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)?

EFT

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a form of therapy specifically designed to help couples improve their emotional connection and strengthen their bond. It was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson in the 1980s and is based on the principles of attachment theory. It's a modality that we use here at Elevated Counseling with our couples that want to rebuild and restore their relationships. In EFT we focus on understanding the underlying emotions and attachment needs that are the fuel behind the relationship dynamics. The therapy aims to help couples identify and express their core emotions, such as fear, sadness, or longing, in order to create a more secure and satisfying bond.

End Game

The goal is to create a more secure emotional bond, when you're secure you connect and find the deepest levels of intimacy.

What Happens in EFT Therapy?

In EFT, we help the couple identify negative interaction patterns that contribute to their distress and conflicts, some of which was a pattern for years in the marriage. These patterns often involve a cycle of negative emotions and behaviors, such as criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal, which can erode the emotional connection between partners. We work with the couple to explore and understand the deeper emotions and attachment needs that fuel these negative patterns. By fostering greater emotional awareness and responsiveness, this therapy and the therapist working with you helps the couple develop more positive and secure ways of interacting. We aim to create a safe and supportive environment where partners can express vulnerable emotions, share their needs, and respond empathetically to each other.

EFT Stages & Healing

EFT typically involves several stages. In the initial stage, we help guide you in learning to identify their negative interaction patterns and underlying emotions. In the middle stage, we reshaping these patterns by promoting new emotional experiences and interactions. The final stage focuses on consolidating the changes and establishing new, healthier ways of relating.

Numerous studies have shown the effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in improving relationship satisfaction and reducing relationship distress. It has been successful in addressing a range of issues, including communication problems, conflicts, infidelity, and emotional disconnection.

Marriage counseling can be an effective way to address relationship issues and improve the overall health and satisfaction of a marriage. However, the success of your marriage counseling depends on various factors, including the willingness of both partners to actively participate in the therapy process, the specific issues being addressed, and the training and expertise of the counselor. Their is ample research that suggests that marriage counseling can be beneficial for many couples. We provide a safe space every day and a neutral environment where couples can openly communicate, understand each other's perspectives, and work towards resolving conflicts. We help couples develop effective communication and problem-solving skills, enhance emotional connection and intimacy, and rebuild trust.

Evidence-based Model

Overall, EFT provides a structured and evidence-based approach to helping couples create and maintain a secure emotional bond, fostering greater intimacy and satisfaction in their relationship.

Learn more by the creator of EFT, Dr. Susan Johnson